It's all about D

So, I hate the fact that I am an upper twenties woman that is single.  I know there are a lot of us out there, but... I am not good at the whole being single thing.  My first marriage happened when I found out I was going to have children.  I didn't want to get married, but it was the right thing to do.  I hadn't had my wild streak, I hadn't even been with anyone else and I realize that may be a good thing but I had some wild oats to sew.  I went through with the wedding and we split one day short of our first anniversary.  I had always told myself that I would never get divorced, no matter what.  Well, I was more than happy to break that rule.  I was now a single mom and was going to be on the dating scene once again.  I didn't know how to handle that because I was still very young and yet wanted to go out a lot.  I realized I was still somewhat attractive to men and found myself in a long time 'buddy' relationship.  I think I was falling for him, but he being even a handful of years older than me, was still not as mature as most 18 year olds.  He would cheat on me and I would okay it because I liked him.  Well, he found someone who was a better 'buddy' so off he went and so another 2 years of my life went by and I still didn't have The One.  Shortly after my buddy and I broke things off, I started partying really hard for a while.  I was developing a crush on a guy but didn't think that I would have a chance.  Well him and I started hanging out quite a bit and we finally went out on a date.  We both kinda decided we wanted to try to make things work.  After the other relationships I was in I decided that I was going to be the boss in this new relationship.  It worked, he really, really liked me but I was very aloof because to show emotions at this point wasn't in my plans.  I secretly wanted my buddy back and was just using this new guy, whom we will call Derek, to try and make him jealous.  Well after a little bit of time, I started falling for Derek.  That's all I have time for today, but I will pick up soon from where I left off and also talk about the other many men that have swept through my life, including a new guy I am wooing who seems to be oblivious!!

Intro

Hi my name is D.  Obviously that's not my real name, but for blogging purposes that will do!  I am a late twenties single-woman, who has been through many relationships and is sick of being rejected by men.  I wouldn't describe myself as psycho, mentally disabled or ugly.  I am not the prettiest girl out there but I've been told there is nothing wrong with me in the looks department.  I do have children but they will not be mentioned in this blog unless something happens in the man department.  I have a career, I own my home, I love go to out with friends and look for men and am always finding Mr. Wrong.  I thought I had found my Mr. Right, but I ruined that.  I am sure that as we develop this blog, you will find out more about me but that is enough for now.

My name is S, and like D, S is not my real name.  I am a single woman living and working in rural America.  I am in my late 20s as well, own my own home and have a job that I can't complain about.  I have never been married and have no children.  Basically, for the first time in my life, I have my shit together; well, except in the relationship department.  Like D, I also enjoy spending times with my friends and my family.  I have been finding men, most of them decent, just none of them the right one.  It's hard in our area to find Mr. Right.  There are tons of single guys, but they seem to have more baggage from ex-girlfriends or ex-wives than I am willing or capable to deal with.  Why am I punished because he dated a (or several) psychos?

We don't understand why guys are always picking the "bad apples" or why they take their past relationship bullshit out on the decent girls.  Recently, we both have experienced heartache from men who either have past relationship issues, don't realize what they want or when they are with us, what they have.  We are not saying that we are perfect by any means.  Shit, we have our issues too.  For instance, D has been engaged twice, married once and often wonders why she couldn't have made that work (especially the second engagement).  S is completely opposite from D.  She has never been engaged, never been married and has had only two semi-serious relationships in her 20+ years on this planet.  

Basically, this is our therapy sessions.  You are more than welcome to comment on our blog; in fact, we would welcome the criticism and advice.